As someone who has been involved in a relationship with someone who is narcissistic, you have likely tried to make the relationship better.
To fix it. To trust it. To nurture it. To expect less from it.
And in the process, you’ve felt worse.
If this sounds familiar, this meditation might help:
I’m so used to searching for something new I can fix.
It makes me sad that I can’t fix the narcissist. When I think about it, narcissism is too big for any one person to fix. Perhaps it’s not my place to change anyone. After all, I don’t like it when someone tries to change me.
People often call me a do-er and a fix-er. They say I care. But today I ask myself if I’ve been controlling in order to lessen the hurt and sadness, or to avoid seeing what might bring me pain? Has this served me well?
I don’t judge myself. Instead, I am gentle with myself. I notice my patterns. I open myself up to myself so I can discover what I really want and need.
Adapted from Surviving the Narcissist: 30 Days of Recovery by Meredith Resnick
Photo by Michael Fenton on Unsplash
