An article featured in The New York Times explores the role of resilience after difficult experiences. We keep in mind that resilience comes, not from “thinking positive” but from moving forward in the face of difficulty.
Eilene Zimmerman writes:
“… The most resilient among us are people who generally don’t dwell on the negative, who look for opportunities that might exist even in the darkest times…Research has shown that dedication to a worthy cause or a belief in something greater than oneself — religiously or spiritually — has a resilience-enhancing effect, as does the ability to be flexible in your thinking.”
While that passage might sound lofty to some, to our thinking, “looking for opportunities” is the key that unlocks the meaning. Finding ways to move through the darkness is where the strength and resilience come from. It’s not about doing it perfectly or even having a propensity to “look” for opportunities. It is simply about the willingness to do something that equates to the next-indicated step. Step by step, resilience grows.
Read “What Makes Some People More Resilient Than Others” from the Resilience series here.
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