Heal your shame through self-compassion.
Stand firm in what you know, and do it for you. Don’t worry about convincing everyone else. Chances are they will find out soon enough, if they haven’t already.
Are you obliged to care for an older parent who abused you? When you were younger you did not have choices. Now you do
Society—including the family where abuse took place—will often try to suppress the same truth that’s been suppressed for years. It takes courage to stand up to that and to advocate for yourself.
Change your perception of forgiveness
Forgiveness is something that evolves, not something you choose.
Insidious Shame After Abuse: Understanding It Gives You Your Power Back
If you struggle with saying the words aloud you may also be feeling a reverberation of the original trauma, and the covert or overt order to keep quiet.
23 Ways to Mess With Shame (Instead of It Messing With You)
Try one, some, or all—anytime, anywhere.
Shame Following Pregnancy or Infant Loss: It’s Not Your Fault
“I continuously tell my patients, ‘You are not wrong. Rather, something very wrong happened to you’.”
Ditch the shame about your adult kid who never grew up
When your child is an adult, there is no more parenting work left to do.
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by Meredith Resnick, LCSW
Meredith's books offer distilled and powerful suggestions to aid in recovery from narcissistic abuse, toxic families, sexual assault, and other personal topics. The books she has written have sold and helped tens of thousands in their recovery from the damaging effects of abuse and trauma. Maybe they can help you, too.